When we begin to take our failures non-seriously, it means we are ceasing to be afraid of them. It is immense importance to learn to laugh at ourselves…Katherine Mansfield
What no longer makes you feel fear and can now bring you a smile?
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It’s been a rough morning… one of those mornings where all you want to do is climb back into bed, turn on some mindless television, and forget you are alive.
But I’m writing instead.
I’ve been off from my day job for the past couple of days, and I feel like I’ve gotten nothing done (which isn’t true). My head is telling me that I should’ve done more (which isn’t true).
I actually got quite a bit done. But sometimes, especially for those of us who tend toward depression, our brains see ourselves as F students, no matter just how much grade A work we’ve done.
So I needed to change the way I was thinking.
I have tons of resources to do this. But sometimes it’s good to get a fresh perspective. So I did a Google search on “how to change your state quickly”.
The top result was this article: Change your state of mind quickly and reliably
In it, the author talks about the basics: positive affirmations, changing your physiology, and self-motivators. All things that I already knew, but wasn’t doing.
So I did them. I started repeating to myself “I can feel better. I can feel better.”
I forced a smile on my face.
I got off of my butt and did some stuff around the house.
I drank some orange juice, and chewed on a vitamin.
And I’m doing some writing.
Life is good. And today is going to be great!
Source: http://creatingabetterlife.net
If my blog posts are a few days late, it is because I’ve been a little pre-occupied.
The last couple of days I’ve been creating the monthly Triggers ezine for 1 April, a page of favorite links for my website and a page for my articles, also for the Forward Steps website.
Enjoy all those wonderful new resources. I’ll have a book to offer you soon also. Working on that in the background. 
If my blog posts are a few days late, it is because I’ve been a little pre-occupied.
The last couple of days I’ve been creating the monthly Triggers ezine for 1 April, a page of favorite links for my website and a page for my articles, also for the Forward Steps website.
Enjoy all those wonderful new resources. I’ll have a book to offer you soon also. Working on that in the background.
If my blog posts are a few days late, it is because I’ve been a little pre-occupied.
The last couple of days I’ve been creating the monthly Triggers ezine for 1 April, a page of favorite links for my website and a page for my articles, also for the Forward Steps website.
Enjoy all those wonderful new resources. I’ll have a book to offer you soon also. Working on that in the background.
Back in the dark ages when I was at school my teachers employed this wacky notion of telling us whether or not our school work was great, good, bad or otherwise.
They even gave us grades.
And when my report cards were bad my folks got mad at me… not the teacher.
Crazy, I know.
Surprisingly I didn’t die from this… or suffer any irreparable damage.
Sometimes kids even failed a subject.
Interestingly, none of them died either (as a result of that failure).
Some of them even went away, studied, worked harder, passed the next semester, developed some new skills and learned a lot from the experience!
Is it just me, or does is dawn on anybody else that the rampant over-protection of our kids (and not just in a school setting) doesn’t really help them at all?
It’s not always an advantage but often, a significant disadvantage?
I’m not a kid-ologist (made that up) but I do own a kid’s gym and do observe lots of parents in action and it seems to me that some parents are so paranoid and over-protective that the very thing they don’t want… they end up creating; kids who can’t cope, can’t adapt and don’t fit in.
The world is a messy, lumpy, bumpy, unfair, nasty, unpredictable place.
Perhaps we should let our kids experience a little pain, discomfort, adversity… life.
Source: http://craigharper.com.au
Daniel Gilbert is he Harvard College Professor of Psychology at Harvard University and Director of Harvard’s Hedonic Psychology Laboratory. He is generally considered the world’s foremost authority in the fields of affective forecasting and the fundamental attribution error.
In 2002, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin listed Gilbert as one of the fifty most influential social psychologists of the decade, and in 2003 one of his research papers was chosen by the editors of Psychological Inquiry as one of four “modern classics” in social psychology. He is the author of Stumbling on Happiness.
Watch this video about affective forecasting and the fundamental attribution error at TheEdge.org
“The problem lies in how we imagine our future hedonic states. We are the only animals that can peer deeply into our futures—the only animal that can travel mentally through time, preview a variety of futures, and choose the one that will bring us the greatest pleasure and/or the least pain. This is a remarkable adaptation—which, incidentally, is directly tied to the evolution of the frontal lobe—because it means that we can learn from mistakes before we make them. We don’t have to actually have gallbladder surgery or lounge around on a Caribbean beach to know that one of these is better than another. We may do this better than any other animal, but our research suggests that we don’t do it perfectly. Our ability to simulate the future and to forecast our hedonic reactions to it is seriously flawed, and that people are rarely as happy or unhappy as they expect to be.”
There is always an inner game being played in your mind no matter what outer game you are playing. How aware you are of this game can make the difference between success and failure in the outer game…Tim Gallwey
Are you aware of your inner game and how it manifests externally?
This is another of Chris’ terrific Light Cards to share with your friends. I hope you’re remembering your friends by making use of these cards daily!
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If my blog posts are a few days late, it is because I’ve been a little pre-occupied.
The last couple of days I’ve been creating the monthly Triggers ezine for 1 April, a page of favorite links for my website and a page for my articles, also for the Forward Steps website.
Enjoy all those wonderful new resources. I’ll have a book to offer you soon also. Working on that in the background.
The Change Your Thoughts To Change your Life eBook contains 39 articles all in one convenient place for you to download. Click on the cover to download the book for only £4.99 
The contents of the book are:
3 questions to change anything in your life
Changing jobs
Claim back your energy
Vizualising the life you want
Staying in love
Letting go to get what you want
7 tips for perfect kissing
Change your mood
Oozing sex appeal and being more attractive
21 days to a new habit
Say NO to boost your self esteem
The cancer view of life
50 best personal development blogs
Anchoring a habit
Attracting more money into your life
Being a dad, not just a father
Being unhappy to find happiness
Changing beliefs
Breaking your oputcome barriers
Clear your house to clear your mind
Clouds of consciousness
Getting connected to you
Giving up smoking
How to make the gym more interesting
Kaizen for personal development
Rewrite your past to create your future
Self discipline, willpower and motivation _ Self discipline
Self discipline, willpower and motivation – Willpower
Self discipline, willpower and motivation – Motivation
Silent power
Slowing the world down
Stages of your own evolution
Template reality
The process of a dream
Timeline perspective
Using a computer and a headset to change your life
What to do when you lose your mojo
Your roles in life
10 tips to stay sane at Christmas
When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn…Harriet Beecher Stowe
In what way are you a better person today than yesterday?
This is a gorgeous Light Card about the silent spaces in life. Please share this card with a close friend today.
Be willing to release the patterns that are creating the conditions you do not want.
Most of us know what we need to be doing or being in order to improve our lives or to move forward. We sometimes choose to ignore taking action or going to work on those areas because we love to be comfortable. Any discomfort associated with challenging our past behaviors is only temporary. After a period of time, the new habits and behavior patterns become the new comfortable zone for us. You just need to stick with them long enough to get to that point. In order for people to change, the pain of change must become less than the pain of staying the same.