You are living YOUR own life, not someone else’s. You call the shots and you get to choose who you allow into your inner circle.
When participating at social connection sites, the thing is to remember what you’re about and what you want for your own life. Set a few basic guidelines for yourself personally, before being dragged around by the distractions and myriad of conversations.
You are the person who has to decide. Whether you’ll do it or toss it aside; You are the person who makes up your mind. Whether you’ll lead or will linger behind. Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar. Or just be contented to stay where you are. -Edgar A. Guest
The Cartesian questions can come in handy when you feel a little spun out and overwhelmed. Ask them in the order presented. After responding to each one, ask a few times over, “…and what else?” What will happen if you do ‘X’? What wont happen if you do ‘X’? What will happen if you don’t do ‘X’? What wont happen if you don’t do ‘X’?
Social media makes your connections more visible and it allows many more people into your life than you may have imagined.
You might have noticed already that you tend to have your regular conversations with a small group of people, and you can probably only keep up with a maximum of around 150 of your “friends”. This is true in social media stream and in your “real” life.
Before you write and when you’re responding to messages, consider who is your audience. Remember that, you are putting your personal friendships out there into a public space.
When someone’s character seems impossible to fathom, observe his friends. -Japanese proverb
If you don’t want your news, photos, videos, relationships or personal notes to be published on the front page of a major newspaper, on everyone’s television screens, in a memo around workplaces or seen by your mum, then count to 10 and take a deep breath… Think, before you publish your status updates on Twitter or Facebook!
Remember James Allen and his famous line, “As a man thinketh, so is he” (from As A Man Thinketh So Is He). Be sure to get your ideas straight and be clear about your purpose for delivering any message into a large, public space.
Two more lessons from Google’s 216-page Social Media Manifesto