Ever noticed that when you have swags of time to complete a task then it takes much more time to complete it than is necessary?
I’m aware of a similar phenomenon with money.
For example, when I have my mortgage or health insurance debited from an account before funds are paid through to me, it’s amazing how that amount is not missed and I easily live with the amount that I receive.
Yet when provided my total funds available first, how hard is it to pool the amount needed to pay that mortgage and insurance?
The thoughts in my mind and the gift that is my life, are not unlike these two scenarios.
When I leave such vacuums in my mind and my life, they will be filled for me. Moment by moment, and usually with other people’s agendas.
My points of focus are then not my own.
The distractions that can can fill those voids are endless.
To experience fewer of those distractions in our life, the first thing to work on is the question, “What end result do you want?”
This one question can be such a struggle for many people.
Often the initial responses to this question are, what we think that others think that we should want for ourselves. Sometimes the answer is even what ‘we think’ that we think we want!
If I can give no authentic response to that question then I must be living from someone else’s agenda. It cannot be any other way.
My thoughts and activities cannot have been allocated a specific focus if I find myself aimlessly bobbing on the waves.
My mind operates like a filter and also as radar. With all the stimulus coming at me then what is my brain filtering out and on what is my mind focused?
If I feel that I have fewer options in life and am experiencing overwhelm then I have not got clear with what I really want and my life will be an expression of survival or chaos.
I am much more inspired when firmly grounding my goals in what I want and where I ultimately want to go rather than basing my goals on what I already have or what I have already done.
The other thing to recognize here, is that there is no right or wrong answer to the question, “What end result do you want?”.
How do you come about the answers for you?
There are a myriad of ways to get access to what touches your heart and what would fulfill your life.
It’s one of the reasons that I load the 365 Forward Steps Notes with so many “aha triggers” for you.
Working on this question over a period allows you to setting aside time for focused conversation on the topic and for exploring many avenues.
Gradually you will expose the desired outcomes that “fit like a glove” for you.
Observe life from this perspective, as quoted here, by Victor Frankl: “View life as a series of movie frames, the ending and meaning may not be apparent until the very end of the movie, and yet, each of the hundreds of individual frames has meaning within the context of the whole movie.
View your life from your funeral, looking back at your life experiences, what have you accomplished? What would you have wanted to accomplish but didn’t? What were the happy moments? What were the sad? What would you do again, and what you wouldn’t?”