6 Benefits Of Learning To Love Yourself

“As long as I have the idea in my head “I have a relationship” or “I am in a relationship”, no matter with whom, I suffer. This I have learnt.

With the concept of “relationship” come expectations, memories of past relationships, and further personally and culturally conditioned mental concepts of what a “relationship” should be like.

Learning To Love Yourself - Forward Steps image 1500px_1Then I would try to make reality conform to these concepts. And it never does. And again I suffer.

The fact of the matter is:

How we relate, or rather how well we love, depends on how empty we are of ideas, concepts, expectations.” -Kim Eng Relationships – True Love and the Transcendence of Duality

No matter how much the hardest among us deny this, we all have a desire to be loved.

Often, it’s a romantic love that we crave. We are caught up in our loneliness and it’s normal to have a want for companionship.

Though, romance isn’t everyone’s struggle or want, it may be a familial want or a platonic friendship. While, for some it may be a combination of all of these.

Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect relationships to play out.

When they don’t go as we want them to we often blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong… that’s not what it’s about.

This is where learning to love yourself comes in and that comes with some incredible benefits.

Here are six amazing benefits of learning to love yourself:

1. You’ll Be Large & In Charge

Instead of making bad choices because you’re being led by shame, guilt or fear, you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are, meaning you will be living your authentic life.

You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction.

Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.

2. You Set Boundaries & Stick To Them

Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive.

Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dating.

You start to see who is wasting your time and you’re strong enough to move forward without them.

More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.

3. The Approval Seeking Will Stop

Which means you’re a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you.

Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?

4. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker

Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don’t truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow.

Learning To Love Yourself - Forward Steps image 1500px_3It’s easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you.

5. You Will Enjoy Alone Time

A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they’re terrified of feeling or being alone.

You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness.

Why would you do all of the things that you don’t love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing, whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing or watching a movie.

It doesn’t need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you’re spending time in your own company.

6. Happiness

You don’t need to find happiness in relationships, whether they’re romantic or not. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself.

When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier.

If you’re not in a romantic relationship you will find that you aren’t as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don’t need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.

The Self-Love List (below), is to help us to live more consciously aware of self-love, personal care and nurturing.

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“How could anyone ever tell you, that you’re anything less than beautiful? How could anyone ever tell you, that you’re less than whole? How could anyone fail to notice, that your loving is a miracle, how deeply you’re connected to my soul?”
-Elaine Silver
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Having more energy and feeling more calm during our busy-ness does not need to take hours and days of work each week. Those incremental changes made long-term can have a huge impact on your overall feelings of confidence, vitality and serenity.

Look though the following list and choose what you could change, today!

Add your own items to the Self-Love List that I have begun for you here:

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when did you last give me a good night’s sleep?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you provide me good, healthy nutrition?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you say better things to me & about me?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you drink more water & keep me hydrated?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when are you going to help raise my energy level?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you generously forgive me?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you put a few of my priorities, first?

Learning To Love Yourself - Forward Steps image 1500px_2Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you take action on my life’s dreams?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you ask someone to give me a bit of help?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you spend some time alone, just with me?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when was the last time you made me smile & laugh?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you start my day with a relaxed breakfast?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you allow me to do what I want in life?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you give me more positive encouragement?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you develop more of my positive emotions?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when are you allowing me a restful holiday?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you reduce what I currently tolerate?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you say “I love you” to me, and mean it?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you really “see me” in the mirror?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you let go of my negative feelings?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you set me strong personal boundaries?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you courageously stand up for me?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you bring out my best so I get to shine?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you start to fully meet my needs?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you let me live true to my values?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be fully complete with my history?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you improve all my dwelling spaces?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you teach people how to treat me well?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you nurture my friends and my family?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be more optimistic about my future?

Forward Steps Glass Red Heart I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be the one to champion me?

Explore a collection of 9 resources to support your love journey:

Art Of Love

Pre-Made Valentine Mind Movies

6 Love Codes

Love Mantra Meditation

Love Or Above

Love At First Fight

Mastering Love

Soulful Love eCourse

Your Self Worth


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