Learning to love yourself comes with some incredible benefits. Read 6 of those below and enjoy many other resources to help with your love journey.
There are no relationships. There is only the present moment, and in the moment there is only relating Share on X“As long as I have the idea in my head “I have a relationship” or “I am in a relationship”, no matter with whom, I suffer. This I have learnt.
With the concept of “relationship” come expectations, memories of past relationships, and further personally and culturally conditioned mental concepts of what a “relationship” should be like.
Then I would try to make reality conform to these concepts. And it never does. And again I suffer.
The fact of the matter is…
How we relate, or rather how well we love, depends on how empty we are of ideas, concepts, expectations.” -Kim Eng (quoted from this article)
No matter how much the hardest among us deny this, we all have a desire to be loved.
Often, it’s a romantic love that we crave. We are caught up in our loneliness and it’s normal to have a want for companionship.
Though, romance isn’t everyone’s struggle or want, it may be a familial want or a platonic friendship. While, for some it may be a combination of all of these.
Rejection and hurt can leave us feeling unfulfilled and disillusioned with how we expect relationships to play out.
When they don’t go as we want them to we often blame ourselves and wonder where we went wrong… that’s not what it’s about.
Here are six amazing benefits of learning to love yourself:
1. You’ll Be Large & In Charge
Instead of making bad choices because you’re being led by shame, guilt or fear, you will be empowered to make choices that truly make sense for who you are, meaning you will be living your authentic life.
You will no longer be caught up with people pleasing, instead you will live a life that brings you satisfaction.
Self-love means trying to honor yourself because you know your needs are just as important as others.
2. You Set Boundaries & Stick To Them
Once you have the hang of honoring your needs you start to feel more confident, which means you are more assertive.
Of course, this results in a more purposeful attitude, especially when it comes to dating.
You start to see who is wasting your time and you’re strong enough to move forward without them.
More to the point, you are strong enough to set clear boundaries with people and stick to them.
3. The Approval Seeking Will Stop
When you truly love yourself, you stop worrying about what everyone else thinks about you Share on XWhich means you’re a less defensive person and more confident about living a life that is authentic for you.
Why would you need acceptance from everyone else when you truly accept yourself?
4. You Will Be A Conscious Decision Maker
Loving yourself gives you the courage to cut things from your life that don’t truly bring you joy or provide you with ample space to grow.
It’s easy to make courageous decisions when you value yourself and actively make choices that are intended to honor you, rather than risk harming you.
5. You Will Enjoy Alone Time
A lot of people get caught up in keeping busy schedules simply because they’re terrified of feeling or being alone.
You surround yourself with people, throw yourself into work and make decisions that help you avoid that loneliness.
Why would you do all of the things that you don’t love? You could be filling that time with things that you actually enjoy doing, whether it’s meditation, swimming, writing, reading self improvement books or watching a movie.
It doesn’t need to feel scary to spend time alone, you should enjoy time with yourself. Self-love brings more comfort when you’re spending time in your own company.
6. Happiness
You don’t need to find happiness in relationships, whether they’re romantic or not. The only love that you truly need to be happy is the love of yourself.
When you start taking responsibility for it and stop giving your power away to everyone else, you will naturally feel happier.
If you’re not in a romantic relationship you will find that you aren’t as desperate to be in one as you once were because you know you don’t need them. When the right person shows up, you will be ready for that love.
The Self-Love List (below), is to help us to live more consciously aware of self-love, personal care and nurturing.
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How could anyone ever tell you, that you’re anything less than beautiful? How could anyone ever tell you, that you’re less than whole? How could anyone fail to notice, that your loving is a miracle, how deeply you’re connected to my soul? -Elaine Silver
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Having more energy and feeling more calm during our busy-ness does not need to take hours and days of work each week. Those incremental changes made long-term can have a huge impact on your overall feelings of confidence, vitality and serenity.
Look though the following list and choose what you could change, today!
Use this Self-Love List that I have begun for you
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when did you last give me a good night’s sleep?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you provide me good, healthy nutrition?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you say better things to me & about me?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you drink more water & keep me hydrated?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when are you going to help raise my energy level?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you generously forgive me?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you put a few of my priorities, first?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you take action on my life’s dreams?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you ask someone to give me a bit of help?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you spend some time alone, just with me?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when was the last time you made me smile & laugh?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you start my day with a relaxed breakfast?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you allow me to do what I want in life?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you give me more positive encouragement?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you develop more of my positive emotions?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when are you allowing me a restful holiday?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you reduce what I currently tolerate?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you say “I love you” to me, and mean it?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you really “see me” in the mirror?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you let go of my negative feelings?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you set me strong personal boundaries?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you courageously stand up for me?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you bring out my best so I get to shine?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you start to fully meet my needs?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you let me live true to my values?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be fully complete with my history?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you improve all my dwelling spaces?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you teach people how to treat me well?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you nurture my friends and my family?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be more optimistic about my future?
I Thought You Loved Me! Yet when will you be the one to champion me?
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