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Studies on the human mind have proven that as a child, your mind is like a sponge. Everything you see, hear, encounter and experience gets absorbed deep in your subconscious mind and continues to influence you from behind the scenes for much of your life.
Your subconscious influence can be either a blessing or a burden, depending on how it drives your thoughts, emotions and beliefs.
The ones that cause unwanted emotions like fear, self-doubt and negativity should be scrubbed from your subconscious mind and the first step to achieving that is knowing exactly what childhood experiences are adversely affecting you and why.
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Four of the most common types of childhood experiences you must release to move forward with your life, are…
1. Moments of uncontrollable, paralyzing fear
Fear is a natural part of growing up. As children, we fear speaking on stage. We fear failing school exams. We fear asking out a potential prom date. We fear standing up to the school bully.
For most of us, that fear was validated when we failed at certain tasks or challenges -and the consequences left us embarrassed, unworthy and doubtful of our own abilities.
For some of us, that fear has solidified into a suit of armor we’ve carried into adulthood; an excuse to avoid taking risks or explore beyond our comfort zones.
As George R.R. Martin says…
The only time a person can be truly brave is by first facing a fearful situation and tackling it head-on anyway! Share on XBe mindful that our purpose in life is to grow; and fear is a necessary ingredient towards that growth. Even award-winning performers like Adele still get fearfully nervous on stage, but that doesn’t stop them from stepping up time and time again.
2. Situations where procrastination paid off (in the short term)
Our brains are hardwired to shield us from harm which is good when you’re stepping aside to avoid a falling tree; but not so good when your brain convinces you to stay put, sit still and not do today what you can do tomorrow.
As children, we quickly begin to encounter situations where procrastination pumps us up with a (short-term) high.
Skipping homework to play video games is fun. Staying up a few extra hours past bedtime is nice and mowing the lawn tomorrow, so you can go play basketball today, sounds like a great idea.
Sure, just like smoking and eating unhealthy food, there are consequences to your temporary high. Yet, once you’re addicted to procrastination, pushing these consequences to the back of your mind becomes second nature.
What makes procrastination even more damaging is that as you get older, the stakes get higher. Your career, finances and health all require your immediate attention and sometimes holding off on an important task for even just a few days is enough for everything to come crashing down.
Don't procrastinate on shaking off your procrastination habit! Share on XRespect yourself, your time and your life by treating it with the urgency it deserves.
3. Inability to find a pursuit, skill or purpose that made your heart sing
You probably remember at least a few people from your childhood who pursued a hobby or skill, like dancing, playing a musical instrument or a sport and went on to turn that pursuit into a successful lifelong career.
Most of us, however, tend to drift away from the paths we explored as children, if we had the opportunity to explore any in the first place.
Instead, we follow what’s available and convenient, sacrificing the discovery or pursuit of what truly fulfils us on a deeper level.
Then, as the bills, responsibilities and deadlines of adulthood stack up, we completely sideline any notion of honoring our passions; instead, we settle for admiring other people’s passion-driven achievements.
Yet, as the German philosopher Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel said…
Nothing great in the world has been accomplished without passion Share on XOn your deathbed, a passionless life will be one of your biggest regrets. So remember that honoring yours is equally as or even more important than, wealth and professional stability.
4. Moments of self-doubt caused by judgmental parents and role models
From our grades to our fashion sense, it’s normal for our parents, mentors, teachers and role models to act judgmentally towards us as we’re growing up.
This behavior often boils down to a well-meaning protective streak that manifests as excessive scrutiny on our actions, decisions and academic performance.
Unfortunately, being constantly put under a microscope can manifest a sense of unease and nervousness each time you’re faced with a decision that should be yours and yours alone to make.
“What will they think?” and, “Will I let them down?” are common questions you’ll ask yourself when you’re plagued by the self-doubt of excessive judgment.
While it is, of course, admirable to make your parents and mentors happy, your own happiness comes before anything else and those who truly love you need to remember this too.
To overcome this block, it’s crucial that you reinforce the understanding that…
You are the captain of your own ship and nobody but you has the right to be your own harshest critic. Share on XNow that you’re familiar with the 4 most common damaging childhood experiences…
It’s crucial to know which one is affecting you most.
Download a free ebook for sharing these 4 experiences
The tricky thing is, because these experiences exist in your subconscious mind, it’s hard to figure this out by yourself. In fact, the truth may be the complete opposite of what you think.
That’s why my friends at Mind Movies have designed a FREE and powerfully accurate 30-second quiz that, through a series of carefully arranged questions, predicts the no. 1 childhood experience that is most damaging to your career, finances and life or as they call it, your Negative Childhood Imprint.
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In taking the quiz, you’ll receive a personalized video report detailing your results, plus detailed action steps for erasing this Negative Childhood Imprint from your mind.
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This article may have given you something to think about. Now you can use AI to explore the ideas more personally and turn them into something useful for your own life.
How to use these prompts: Choose the one that appeals to you, copy the complete prompt and paste it into ChatGPT or another AI tool. The AI will use this article as the starting point and can also draw on other relevant knowledge when useful. You can answer its questions and continue the conversation as you go.
1. Apply This To My Life
Use this prompt when you want to connect the article’s ideas with something happening in your own life.
I want to understand which of the four childhood experiences discussed in the Forward Steps article “4 Childhood Experiences You Must Release” may still be influencing my life today. Use that Forward Steps article as your primary source.
Help me look at these four areas in relation to my own life: childhood fear that may still limit me, procrastination that may have become a habit, losing touch with pursuits or passions that once made my heart sing and self doubt influenced by judgmental parents or role models.
First, ask me a few thoughtful questions to discover which of these ideas may be most relevant to me. Keep the conversation natural rather than making it feel like a questionnaire. Then, based on my answers and the article, help me understand how this childhood experience may be showing up in my current thinking, choices, relationships, work or everyday life.
Give me practical and personalised guidance that stays grounded in what the article teaches. Do not diagnose me or introduce unrelated psychological theories. Build on my answers and help me see what I may be ready to release so I can move forward.
2. Reflect More Deeply
Use this prompt when you want to explore what these 4 childhood experiences might be telling you.
I want to look more deeply at the four childhood experiences described in the Forward Steps article “4 Childhood Experiences You Must Release” and discover something about myself that I may not have noticed before. Use that Forward Steps article as your primary source.
Guide me through a thoughtful conversation about the four areas the article identifies: fear that became a protective barrier, procrastination that once brought short term rewards, losing touch with pursuits or skills that made life feel fulfilling and self doubt created by excessive judgment from parents or role models.
Ask me one or two meaningful questions at a time rather than giving me a long list. Help me notice patterns, assumptions, old ways of thinking or possibilities for my life that connect naturally with the article. When I answer, respond thoughtfully and build on what I have said.
Keep the reflection grounded in the article rather than turning it into generic self improvement advice. Help me explore what I may have carried forward from childhood, what may no longer serve me and what I might see differently now.
3. Turn It Into Action
Use this prompt when you are ready to do something about releasing these childhood experiences rather than simply thinking about them.
I want to stop simply recognising the childhood experiences described in the Forward Steps article “4 Childhood Experiences You Must Release” and do something useful with what I have learned. Use that Forward Steps article as your primary source.
Help me identify which one of the four areas is most relevant to me right now: fear that holds me back, procrastination, losing touch with a pursuit or passion that matters to me or self doubt caused by judgment from parents or role models.
Ask me a few questions first if you need more information about my situation. Then help me choose one realistic way to begin releasing that old pattern. Turn it into a simple plan with only a few manageable steps that fit my actual circumstances.
Keep the plan closely connected to the message of the article. Focus on progress rather than perfection and help me adjust the plan as I tell you how it goes. Do not overwhelm me with a long list of recommendations or replace the article’s ideas with generic self improvement advice.
Tip: You don’t have to use all three. Start with the one that feels most useful to you right now.
Hi, I'm Thea Westra at Forward Steps (forwardstepsblog.com)
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