I pat YOU on the back, for being right here and for living your life beyond what’s right in front. You wouldn’t be reading this blog if it weren’t so. You’re looking for what else is possible and asking yourself the “What if?” questions. Congratulations!
This post is about creating your future, yet you really only ever have the one moment. That is this moment, right now!
If you have decided on something that you want for yourself, your life or the lives of those for whom you care, then NOW is the time to begin.
Are things not happening that you want to see happen? Do you live “in waiting” for something external? Then …it is time to get truthful. Have you honestly decided on what you want? Do you truly know what you want? I can tell you that, once you have a vision, when you can clearly see it and you fully desire it, there is nothing that will stop you. Nothing will get in the way of you reaching that target.
Quit wanting things because others say it is what you should want. Spend some quiet times with just you and get connected to your own personal desires.
In the following paragraphs, I’ll share a couple of personally empowering exercises that you can use, to get you unstuck and in momentum, when things are not quite looking the way that you would like. Many of these will help get you connected to your true desires. I’ve selected self reflection exercises which are most in tune with the topic.
Intuition: Each of us has a higher consciousness, an intuition, that is connected directly to the energy of the universe and provides us with the absolute truth and our inspiration for our existence. We all create obstacles for our intuition, and often times do not get the messages it is trying to send us. If you’re trying to decide between two specific options, you can do an interesting variant on the coin flip to help get in touch with your intuition. Decide that if the coin lands on “heads” you’ll go with option one; if it lands on “tails”, you’ll go with option two. Now here’s the key: After you flip and get the result, see how you FEEL. Were you disappointed and said, “Oh heck!”? Or, were you pleased and said, “That’s great!” or “Whew!”? Based on your response, you will know the right answer for you.
Integrity: When you are complete with your environment, well-being, money and relationships, you will have more natural energy . The Clean Sweep Program consists of 100 items which, when all checked, give you greater vitality and strength. The program can be completed in less than one year. Just Google “Clean Sweep Program Forward Steps” and you can download a free copy for yourself.
Reframing: This is a ridiculously simple exercise in framing and instructing your subconscious. 1. Each day, take a clean piece of paper, divide it into two columns, write “successes” at the top of the left hand column and “failures” at the top of the right hand one. Then date the page. Under “successes”, briefly note each of your successes that day, one per line. Include both the little and big ones. 2. Similarly, under “failures”, list each of what you perceive to be the day’s failures. 3. Then read through your success list. After reading each success, remember the experience it refers to and say to yourself, “That’s a success. I’ll have more of those!” 4. Next read through your “failure” list. After each failure, remember the experience and say to yourself, “That’s a failure. I’ll have less of those!” If you do this every day, you will soon see that the daily list of successes increases and the list of failures decreases simply because you consciously framed the experiences that you consider successes and the ones that you consider failures and told your unconscious to focus on generating the former and reducing the latter. What you focus on is an instruction to your subconscious. If you want more successes, focus on successes.
Consequences: When you or someone else is faced with making a decision, check out the effects, consequences and outcomes, while exploring the overall. Ask the following questions in the order presented and after asking each one, ask “…and what else?” – a few times over. Here are those very useful questions. What will happen if you do ‘X’? What won’t happen if you do ‘X’? What will happen if you don’t do ‘X’? What won’t happen if you don’t do ‘X’?
Values: Imagine that you are at your own funeral. You’re listening to what your loved ones are saying about you: the good stuff (and the not so good), the dreams, the aspirations, the things that you were connected to, the things that meant a lot to you. Perhaps they mention the things that you didn’t get to do, or the opportunities that were lost. Take 15 minutes to write up your eulogy. What are the core values and the achievements for which you would like to be remembered?
Clarity: Revisit your current goals and make sure to ask yourself, am I moving towards something that inspires me or am I pursuing this goal to move away from an undesired situation? One of these two choices brings with it much more power and fun for accomplishing what it is that you’re actually seeking to achieve, from your heart. As expressed by Abraham-Hicks, “Get so fixated on what you want, that you drown out any vibration or reverberation that has anything to do with what you do not want”. I have a 50 Life Power Questions exercise which is an excellent tool for getting “clear of trees”, giving you a magnificent view of the “woods”! Just Google search “50 Life Power Questions” and you’ll find it. This exercise may take well over an hour to complete, if not two. It is very much worth spending that time to get yourself clear about what you truly want to accomplish in life.
Self-Talk: What do you see around you, and what do you take on board emotionally, when you say to yourself: I have no money? Try this at home! Look around your home and say those words several times over. Do you notice what your mind is picking up and tuning in to? Now, try the flip side of that exercise, allowing at least five minutes to just be with it. This time, walk around your home saying: I am so wealthy. What did you notice? You can use that very simple exercise with anything you like. Walk around for an afternoon, with the words: I am so alone. Then try it differently, and this time repeating the words: I have so many wonderful people sharing in my life. Consider then how else you use language to interpret the things surrounding you each day. How do you think the cells of your body might logically respond to the words: I am starving? What image does that conjure? Would it cause a shift in the cellular and chemical response of your body if instead, you were to tone that down, and use the words: I am hungry? New words, new pictures, evoking empowering emotions.
Answers: Write down the problem you want to solve or the question you want answered. Be very specific. Close your eyes and grab a book from your bookshelf. Any book whatsoever. (Don’t despair if it is completely unrelated to your question — that is often better.) Randomly open the book to any page. Let your finger run down the page to stop wherever you’d like. Read the section your finger is pointing to. Make this answer the answer to your question. Figure out how IT is the answer.
Pretending: Write a letter, filled with many questions, to the “guru” of your issue. That is, if you’re grappling with a business problem, write to a business expert, or if it is relationship related, write to a relationship guru. Once the letter is written, send it to your own address. Put the issue aside and out of your mind until you receive that letter a few days later in your mailbox. Receive the letter and open it as though you are the expert who as just opened their mail. Pretend that you receive mail like this every day from hundreds of people around the world. You ‘are’ the expert and know a great deal about this topic plus you ‘have’ a history of experience in dealing with these issues because you have helped thousands of people who have the very same questions and concerns. Write a response to the letter from that perspective and objectively. Remain detached from the fact that this is your personal issue — remember, a perfect stranger has just mailed this letter to you. Once you (the guru/expert) has replied fully to the letter, send it in the mail. Once more, to your own address. Again, disregard the issue and allow your subconscious to do with it what it will over the period that the letter is in transit back to you. Upon receipt of the expert’s reply back in your own mail box, either completely take action on the advice given in the letter or finally decide that it’s all too hard and choose to not take action in this area of your life at all.
We have more objectivity available to us than we know when it comes to decision making. Often it’s purely a matter of asking the right questions to gain access to the answers that are right for us. Whenever you’re stuck with, “I don’t know”, ask the question, “What would you do if you did know?” That almost always works to provide a solution. Another one of those powerful questions is “What would you do if you knew that you could not fail?” It takes away those doubt thoughts that creep in at the moment that we come up with a vision for a successful future.
Exercises like the ones above, and particular questioning techniques, can support us by removing us from the issue at hand and give an ability to look at it from a distance so that we can relate to it more objectively and in a detached manner, thereby getting unstuck and back into momentum.
Most times we are too close to something and cannot see wood for trees or we have past-based thoughts tied in with a current scenario. Find any way that you can to take yourself away from that kind of mind-play and allow yourself to be ruthlessly honest about what your next step needs to be.
Thea Westra is the author of “Time For Your Life: 365 Stepping Stones”. Make the decision to change! We often achieve our goals by taking small steps and practicing every day. That principle applies to achieving your dreams for the future too. Take more baby steps and more often. In our fast-paced lives small, achievable steps in your desired direction will get you there!
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