You might not realize it, yet deep down everyone is afraid.
The big difference between you and all those people you can see who are successful is that they confronted their fears. They worked through their issues to get ahead or went ahead in spite of them.
When you don’t face your fears, you’re likely to miss out on a lot in life.
Someone once said that one of the saddest ways to sum up life is with could have, might have and should have. Don’t let that happen to you.
You have a choice between controlling or being controlled by your fears.
Here are a few tips to overcome your fears for achieving your goals.
No matter what your fears are, from public speaking to mountain climbing, you don’t have to do it all in one go. Work out what you want to achieve and take baby steps.
Each small success will increase your confidence and shrink down that fear.
Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. The fearful are caught as often as the bold. -Helen KellerClick to tweet
You don’t have to do it alone
No one said that you had to hide your fear or overcome it all by yourself.
Build up a support network of family, friends and colleagues who’ll have your back and cheer you on.
Get professional advice from a coach or mentor or buddy up with a friendly colleague.
One of the greatest discoveries a person makes, one of their great surprises, is to find they can do what they were afraid they couldn’t do. -Henry FordClick to tweet
Accentuate the positive
A positive mindset will go a long way to help dispel fears and worries. A negativity spiral makes things worse, increasing your paralysis and helplessness.
I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear; knowing what must be done does away with fear. -Rosa ParksClick to tweet
Take control of the story
Rewriting your narrative can knock your fears on the head once and for all. If you see yourself as a competent, successful person, those niggles of self-doubt, that negative self-talk won’t be able to get a toe-hold.
Take control of your story, decide to be brave, confident and successful. Write down all the negative things that go round and round in your head. Make a list and for every bad thing, write a positive one.
The brave person is not the one who does not feel afraid, but the one who conquers that fear. -Nelson MandelaClick to tweet
Breathe intentionally through the day
Anxious people are shallow breathers. Tensions feel that much worse when our brain is not well oxygenated, as well as contributing to muscle tension.
Use this 4-7-8 relaxing breath technique at various times throughout the day.
Improve sleep habits
Take a look at what you do to prepare for sleep of an evening.
Here are a few tips about healing your body as you sleep which will get you on track.
Where could you make changes so that you wake and begin your days in a rested and calmer state.
Teach your body
Read the work of Dr. Herbert Benson about our body’s relaxation response.
One of the best ways to do that is by meditation each morning.
Here is a free meditation timer tool that you might find useful too.
With regular meditation you can enjoy lower stress levels, increased wellbeing and reduced blood pressure levels and resting heart rate.
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Kerry Ressler stated that, “Getting over a fear is an active process that requires learning and retraining the brain. Essentially, you are training higher-level brain areas to overcome signals from areas like the amygdala so that you can put threats into a more realistic context.”